Tuesday, June 18

Getting Along Biblically with Family

After moving home to be a stay at home daughter I spend a great deal more time with my parents. We've had a hilly relationship over the years, but thankfully God heals everything through prayer, commitment, and forgiveness. Recently a friend who followed the traditional route of college, career, etc asked me how I get along with my mother. This simple acronym of CAPAS guides me for getting along biblically with family. 

1) Communication- Humans aren't mind readers! Sharing feelings and worries opens up a line of communication irreplaceable to a healthy relationship.

2) Appreciation- 1 Thessalonians 5:18 "Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Jesus Christ for you." Instead of complaining and being selfish about the habits of others we should learn from those experiences and use that knowledge to better serve the Lord. Show that you appreciate others- even if it's a small thank you for doing the dishes! 

3) Prayer- Pray about everything! Pray for others. Pray for your relationship. Pray that you can forgive others even if they don't know how they wronged you- proactive forgiveness! Pray that you can be a better friend, daughter, sister, mother... Pray for God's wisdom to resolve conflict. 

4) Accommodation- Philippians 2:4 "Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others." Put others' schedules, wishes, and needs ahead of your own. Sacrifice for others like Christ sacrificed for us. 

5) Scripture- Apply Scripture to all matters happy or sad; conflict, fear, jealousy, selfishness. Reading and memorizing Scripture allows us to apply it in our relationships!

1 comment:

  1. This is a wonderful acronym. It is sad that we often are willing to live these things out when it comes to our friends or neighbors or co-workers, but not our closest family members.
    I'll remember this, and share it with my own family. Thank you!


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